Getting Unstuck

1. a tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged.
“the bureaucratic inertia of government
a property of matter by which it continues in its existing state of rest or uniform motion in a straight line, unless that state is changed by an external force.
In other words, an object at rest, tends to stay at rest. While an object in motion tends to stay in motion.
I have been working with several clients that feel stuck. It is a dreary place, alternating between boring, frustrating, hopeless and depressing.  The feeling of being stuck generally translates to some sort of resistance. Resistance is often based in fear; fear of getting what we want, fear of success or failure, fear of breaking the rules we grew up with, or fear of humiliation. Often that feeling of fear is completely hidden from awareness except for the persistent sense of being stuck.
I noticed that if I sit with iPad in hand, cruising the internet, playing games and repeatedly checking for Facebook messages, I loose momentum. The longer I sit, the harder it is to get up and start moving. Inertia. Once I do mobilize myself to get up, it is as if life returns. Even if I just get up and walk into another room, I start to feel more enlivened and remember what I wanted to get done and start to feel invigorated and excited. This is not a tale about iPad’s, although that would be a good one to tell. This is a story of intertia.
When we feel stuck, it is essential that we get up and move. It is interesting how we focus on a problem, to the exclusion of everything else, before we feel free to to move, like it is some form of punishment. I am remembering my mother’s admonition to get my work done before play. Well, work is never done, and problems don’t get solved by sitting in them. Not the relationship, the job, or the finances. There needs to be movement. It doesn’t matter if you do something that you feel is related to your feeling of stuck-ness or not. Just move! Take a walk, visit a friend, or clean out a closet. Remember…an object in motion tends to stay in motion.

The Meaning of Our Story

In Spiritual Graffiti Jeff Brown says, “I understand that we get lost in our stories, but let’s not throw out the whole story with the bath water. In the heart of our story is the grist for our soul’s transformation. Our stories are no illusion. We are made of story. The illusion is illusion, itself. Deal with your story, or your story will deal with you.”

In my practice, I have seen people make important connections between their story and their current situation; what they believe, how they think and the deeper meaning of challenges they are facing. This is about bringing consciousness to the automatic, rote way we normally tell our stories. While I was attending the healing school, I remember sharing one of my family stories with the group, rather matter of factly, and with a laugh. The look of shock on their faces was a real wake up for me.  That funny little anecdote was actually a very painful experience that had affected me deeply.  Our stories, true or not, become an integral part of who we are and can have far reaching affects on our health and wellbeing. There was a time when healers would stop clients from telling their story, inviting them instead to get out of their heads and into their bodies and feelings. Now, we look more toward the meaningful telling of stories, while embodying. I love seeing that OMG look on a client’s face when random pieces of personal history suddenly come together within a deeper context. None of that would happen if they did not have space to tell their story to another person with a listening, open heart. We do not ditch our stories, until we understand them. Like little children, they will stalk us, begging for our attention. There is great personal learning that can be had in our story, if we are willing to tell it with consciousnesswhats_your_story_000.