Getting Unstuck

in·er·tia
iˈnərSHə/
noun
1. a tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged.
“the bureaucratic inertia of government
2. PHYSICS
a property of matter by which it continues in its existing state of rest or uniform motion in a straight line, unless that state is changed by an external force.
In other words, an object at rest, tends to stay at rest. While an object in motion tends to stay in motion.
I have been working with several clients that feel stuck. It is a dreary place, alternating between boring, frustrating, hopeless and depressing.  The feeling of being stuck generally translates to some sort of resistance. Resistance is often based in fear; fear of getting what we want, fear of success or failure, fear of breaking the rules we grew up with, or fear of humiliation. Often that feeling of fear is completely hidden from awareness except for the persistent sense of being stuck.
I noticed that if I sit with iPad in hand, cruising the internet, playing games and repeatedly checking for Facebook messages, I loose momentum. The longer I sit, the harder it is to get up and start moving. Inertia. Once I do mobilize myself to get up, it is as if life returns. Even if I just get up and walk into another room, I start to feel more enlivened and remember what I wanted to get done and start to feel invigorated and excited. This is not a tale about iPad’s, although that would be a good one to tell. This is a story of intertia.
When we feel stuck, it is essential that we get up and move. It is interesting how we focus on a problem, to the exclusion of everything else, before we feel free to to move, like it is some form of punishment. I am remembering my mother’s admonition to get my work done before play. Well, work is never done, and problems don’t get solved by sitting in them. Not the relationship, the job, or the finances. There needs to be movement. It doesn’t matter if you do something that you feel is related to your feeling of stuck-ness or not. Just move! Take a walk, visit a friend, or clean out a closet. Remember…an object in motion tends to stay in motion.

The Meaning of Our Story

In Spiritual Graffiti Jeff Brown says, “I understand that we get lost in our stories, but let’s not throw out the whole story with the bath water. In the heart of our story is the grist for our soul’s transformation. Our stories are no illusion. We are made of story. The illusion is illusion, itself. Deal with your story, or your story will deal with you.”

In my practice, I have seen people make important connections between their story and their current situation; what they believe, how they think and the deeper meaning of challenges they are facing. This is about bringing consciousness to the automatic, rote way we normally tell our stories. While I was attending the healing school, I remember sharing one of my family stories with the group, rather matter of factly, and with a laugh. The look of shock on their faces was a real wake up for me.  That funny little anecdote was actually a very painful experience that had affected me deeply.  Our stories, true or not, become an integral part of who we are and can have far reaching affects on our health and wellbeing. There was a time when healers would stop clients from telling their story, inviting them instead to get out of their heads and into their bodies and feelings. Now, we look more toward the meaningful telling of stories, while embodying. I love seeing that OMG look on a client’s face when random pieces of personal history suddenly come together within a deeper context. None of that would happen if they did not have space to tell their story to another person with a listening, open heart. We do not ditch our stories, until we understand them. Like little children, they will stalk us, begging for our attention. There is great personal learning that can be had in our story, if we are willing to tell it with consciousnesswhats_your_story_000.

Shoreline Satsang Circle at HCEM

Healing Connections (HCEM) is pleased and excited to host the Shoreline
Satsang Circle.  Like us on Facebook! Shoreline Satsang Circle
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Living in uncertain times as we do, being together in the sacred space of Satsang offers peace, inspiration and the awareness that we are more than physical beings. 

HCEM’s Satsang Circle will be hosted by Hillary Gauvreau, owner and practitioner at HCEM, and led by Dave Oat, Spiritual Director and healer. 

Dave and I had the pleasure of spending a week in Costa Rica with Devame and D Premal, Miten, and Manose. We chanted, sang and meditated. At the close of the week, Deva spoke to us about creating our own Satsang Circles. It was such a wonderfully nourishing and spiritual experience, and so easy to create, that we decided to bring it to HCEM.

 We will devote one hour to being together, singing, chanting, and silence. All our voices are welcome, and we will have recorded music to support our efforts. The chants will be easy to learn and there will be brief instruction for those who are not familiar with Satsang.
There will be floor sitting, so bring your zafu cushion. We will have chairs for those who need them, and some pillows are available. Wear comfortable clothes.
The Satsang Circle will gather the first Thursday of the month unless otherwise announced.
Since space is limited, please email us if you plan on attending. There is no charge for this group, but donations will be accepted and passed on to a designated charity.
What is Satsang?

Satsang, translated from Sanskrit means “meeting (Sangha) in truth (Sat)”.

Whenever something increases your experience of the Truth, it opens your Heart and quiets your mind. The true teacher, or satguru, is within you, and satsang, is being with that experience.
Chanting, or Kirtan, is part of the path of Devotional Yoga.
Satsang is where people gather together to remember, to turn within and find their own inner path to the One.
Kirtan is a simple & powerful way to meditate.
It’s effortless & joyful; the music does the work for you
as you flow with the melody & rhythm.
Many of the chants are sung in Sanskrit. The ancient
chants contain powerful renewing & transformative energy
that helps us reconnect with the Divinity that resides
within all of us.
Singing is the heart of kirtan, and no one cares what
you sound like.  All voices merge together to become
One Voice.
“Kirtan is a means of finding our way back to the core of
our Being, to our heart, and to our connection with each
other.” Ragani
“These chants come from the Hindu tradition, but they are not about being a Hindu, or believing anything. It’s just about doing it and experiencing. Nothing to join, you just sit down and sing.” Krishna Das

 

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“Reminders of What We Need to Know”

techqua_wheelIf you are feeling overwhelmed by world events and looking for a way to help, then the “Reminders of What We Need to Know” could be helpful.  Assist in raising  conscious awareness with a focus on our changing world paradigm.  Offer a unique contribution to a smooth transition through change. Expand spirituality, explore metaphysics and quantum mechanics with the intention of being in the world but not of it. As the Hopi elders say “We are the ones we have been waiting for.

Beyond 2012: Reminders of What we Need To Know Blog

On Facebook  2012 and Beyond: The Reminders Group

 

Reminders of What We Need to Know: CYCLES

LD_HealMore and more evidence is surfacing that points toward the possibility of a highly technologically advanced ancient culture that predates all the cultures we typically consider to be the origins of culture and humanity.
 
The Ancient One, as I call her, who first said “Remind them of what they need to know”, has hinted at this. What if there are repeating cycles of world civilization/culture, peaking and dying over and over and so old that no memories survive? The only artifacts left are stone structures and the mystery they evoke.
 
What if all we are aware of is our personal cycle of recorded history? Like coming into a reincarnated body with no memory of past lives, do we enter new cycles of civilization like blank slates, with no memory of the past? That would allow us the freedom to explore, create, and develop without ties to the past in an exciting earthly “do over”. The Earth is estimated to be 4.54 billion years old. The age of dinosaurs was 250-65 million years ago. What if our awareness of the beginnings of life over 250 million years ago is the beginning of our cycle?  Perhaps we are in the Forth World as the Hopi call it, and three worlds have gone before, now almost completely obliterated from view.
If this is an exciting “do over”, as I suspect it is, what might we want to be reminded of? What is the message the ancient ones want us to know?
 
You are invited to join The “Reminders of What We Need to Know” Group as we explore our role in the changing world paradigm.  As the Hopi elders say, we are the ones we have been waiting for!

No event or being, divine or otherwise, will rescue us from our responsibility to ourselves and our world. Everything we do, positive or negative, has an effect. We are here by intention, not accident. The “Reminders” help us to be conscious of our role in the changing paradigm and the effect we are having in the world. This group relates to events of the day, and follows wherever guidance takes us. Each meeting includes discussion, information and meditation. 

 New members are always welcome to join us. You do not have to commit to attending every meeting, but I am hopeful you won’t want to miss any.

 Space is limited, so please email hillary@healingcem.com, text or call 860-884-7130 if you plan to attend. 

 

 

The “M” Word: MEDITATION

I have noticed lately that there are more meditation classes and groups coming together. I like that because meditation Is one of the most useful practices I think we can develop. It calms our physiology, it invites creativity and inspiration, and it connects us to our inner wisdom and guidance. Unfortunately, when I mention it to clients, usually as an encouraging invitation, I often get “the look”.

The LOOK is what I give the dental hygienist when she reminds me to floss every day.
The benefits of meditation are well known and can be found everywhere. When I Googled it, over 14 million links came up.  So if we know that meditation, like flossing, is good for us, why so much resistance to it?
I started to ask the question: Whazzup with the “look”?
The responses were similar:
1. No time, too busy.
2. Not good at it.
3. Frustrated. Can’t stop thinking.
Let’s pull this apart and see what is true.
1. Yes, you do have time. I guarantee it, trust me. All you need is 15 minutes a day and I spend more time than that on Candy Crush Saga. Do it when you want, where you want and how you want. A client reported she meditated in the bathroom at work during her lunch hour. It requires no special equipment (although I have found a lovely App I like called “Insight Timer”), and costs nothing but your time. I had a teacher who was an avid meditator for over 25 years. You could tell something was different about her. Even in the midst of a stress filled day she had an air of calm. She said there is really only one thing to remember about meditating: put your tush on the cush. Even after all that meditation she admitted there were times when she hated it and times when she was blissful. Overall, the rewards are great if we can get past the resistance and just do it. MorningMeditation
It doesn’t always feel good, but learning to be with ourselves, tolerating the itchy discomfort gives us strength, not just for meditation, but for all the things in life that cause us discomfort. When it does feel good, we are rewarded and inspired to keep going.
The honest truth is that we always have time to do what we want to do. So why don’t we want to do it?
2. and 3. Resistance. We live in an age of high speed action and reaction. Our days are filled to overflowing with information technology. When it all stops and we are left with simply our bodies and our thoughts, it can be strange and foreign territory. When people tell me they have tried and they just can’t do it, I ask why? It all seems so simple. From what I understand there are several problems. First is the expectation that the first time the tush hits the cush, and every time after that, thoughts will stop and bliss will descend upon us. When that doesn’t happen, we judge ourselves, feel frustrated and give up. Meditation, like fine wine, needs time to mellow into a rich, full-bodied experience. It is a discipline, or as Rick Pezzullo says, it is like training a puppy. There will be quite a few chewed up slippers before we are trained.  So try to let go of the belief you are not good at meditation, because none of us are. We just keep going until we begin to notice the we feel better, more peaceful, healthier, less frustrated. Meditation is not the goal…it is the vehicle for transformation. Healing is transformation and that is why I encourage my clients to meditate.
stress_pancreasThe myth that creates frustration when we sit to meditate, is that our minds will cease thinking as if by magic. NOT! Our minds think, our lungs breath and our hearts beat. That is the nature and purpose of the physiology. Thoughts will be there, but (this is important!) we are not our thoughts! “WE” are actually an overseeing operating system of conscious awareness. The mind works for us, not the other way around. When we practice meditation, we are learning to listen to the deeper wisdom of consciousness, over and above the mind chatter. Our thoughts can be very seductive and while meditating we will, from time to time, find we have gone for a ride with them. My grandfather in his later years, would sit looking out his window and watch the people and traffic on Main Street. He observed, he didn’t run out and get into the cars. As you sit, imagine that thoughts are cars on Main Street. If a shiny red Ferrari grabbed you for a ride, notice and GENTLY bring your awareness back to your chair, your breath, your mantra, your blanket, whatever will help you focus in this moment. Keep practicing, and as you do, you will begin to notice longer stretches of empty “mindless” space. The puppy is learning to sit! A wise person once said that prayer is talking to God, meditation is listening. You might be surprised what you hear.

Advice that you didn’t ask for:

1. Decide to give yourself a decent period of time to really commit to a meditation practice. 30 days is a good place to start.
2. Find a place to sit. There can be a lot of “voodoo” around creating a space for your practice. For now, I encourage you to keep it simple and comfortable. It can be a cushion on the floor anywhere, a chair in the corner of a room, or the john at work.
3. Eliminate distractions. No phones, iPads, computers, or interruptions T3-zen-catthat are within your power to prevent. Let your roommate, family members, cats and dogs, know not to disturb you. Shut the door. When it comes to meditation I am very Zen about it. I believe silence, unless you are chanting in your own voice, is optimal. You want to avoid anything that your mind can latch onto to amuse itself while you sit. That brings up the issue of guided meditations. I think they are wonderful tools, and imagery can be very healing. However, in my experience it is not the same as, or ever takes the place of silent meditation.
4. That’s it. You can embellish as you please. If you have time and inclination, start a journal of your practice so you can track your experience.
Books I recommend include:
How to Meditate by Lawrence LeShan
Buddha in Blue Jeans by Tai Sheridan
I am available for private sessions to support your personal growth and transformation, and to help smooth out the bumps in your practice. Email me at hillary@healingcem.com or call 860-884-7130 for an appointment.
 

E-Squared

 
Do you jump out of bed in the morning, thrilled to be alive knowing that you have the ability to bring great, huge, gobs of joy and satisfaction into every moment of your experience? If not, why not? If you are like most of us it is because we do not feel like we have much influence over our experience. WRONG! We are extraordinarily influential and creative, but we operate on a default mode of outdated old tapes, painful experiences and messages we got before we were six years old.  We can change that. 
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What is E Squared? 

E-Squared is a brilliant book (I wish I had written it!)  written by Pam Grout with the subtitle: Nine Do It Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality. It has been all over my Facebook page and after ignoring it for awhile, I finally stopped to take a look. I am so happy I did. This book is brilliant!

“I absolutely love this book. Pam has combined the humor of Ellen DeGeneres with the wisdom of Deepak Chopra.”
–Jack Canfield

Don’t face reality. Create reality!
 
      E-Squared could best be described as a lab manual with simple experiments to prove that reality is malleable, that consciousness trumps matter, and that you shape your life with your mind. Rather than take it on faith, you are invited to conduct nine experiments to prove there really is a positive, loving, totally hip force in the universe. Yes, you read that right. It says prove.
      The experiments in E-Squared prove the following:
1.       There is an invisible energy force or field of infinite possibilities.
2.       You impact the field and draw from it according to your beliefs and expectations.
3.       You, too, are a field of energy.
4.       Whatever you focus on expands.
5.       Your connection to the field provides accurate and unlimited guidance.
6.       Your thoughts and consciousness impact matter.
7.       Your thoughts and consciousness provide the scaffolding for your physical body.
8.       You are connected to everything and everyone else in the universe.
9.       The universe is limitless, abundant, and strangely accommodating.
Pam suggests gathering together in groups to play with the experiments, create a few of our own and “square” the energy until it explodes  into a juicy new world and delicious new way of being.
Remember:
1. We are awesome! Powerful energetic beings running currents of possibilities!
2. The field of potentiality is unlimited. Anything is possible. Kicks the stuffing out of old beliefs of limitation.
3. We are all in this together. When we go the extra mile to appreciate and play together, we all gain.
Play Groups are on hiatus for the summer. Contact Hillary for dates and to get on our email list.
Hillary Gauvreau
hillary@healingcem.com
860-884-7130

Matrix Energetics Now Included at Healing Connections

Healing Connections is now incorporating Matrix Energetics (ME) into healing sessions. I have found that using ME as the technology to hold the session invites in the best possible results. Please contact Hillary to schedule a session!

Matrix Energetics is not a “thing” to be defined – it is, instead, a pathway to transformation. This transformation takes place by communicating at the quantum level with the wave fronts (energy and information) that create all of reality.

There is nothing physical – Instant change is possible!

“Matrix Energetics took me to a new state of being filled with joy and elation. During my session it was revealed that my core obstacle was fear. Once Hillary cleared my negative fear thought pattern anxiety and dread melted away and was replaced by a greater sense of self, confidence, clarity, and spiritual connectedness. I had blossomed into the best possible ‘me’ and can’t wait to repeat the experience. Thank you Hillary!” L.D. 

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Understanding The Blame Game

Rick Hanson wrote this wonderful blog about being accountable that I am sharing with you.
Admit Fault and Move On.
“Get beyond the hassle and bad feelings by admitting fault. Remind yourself how it’s in your own best interest to admit fault and move on. We might think that admitting fault is weak or that it lets the other person off the hook for his or her faults. But actually, it takes a strong person to admit fault, and it puts us in a stronger position with others.” – Rick Hanson
Read more at: http://www.rickhanson.net/just-one-thing/admit-fault-and-move-on
Admit Fault and Move On – Just One Thing | Dr. Rick Hanson – Author of Buddha’s Brain
Now for my two cents!

I actually don’t like the word fault, because I have been programmed to connect fault with blame, as in “it is all your fault!”. But that is a minor quibble with the wonderful wisdom Rick has to share.

blameI personally have found enormous relief and peace by taking a breath and being accountable for my actions. Being accountable isn’t difficult, but fearing blame, being blamed, and blaming are all very painful. Because of that, we habitually avoid being blamed which keeps us from accountability. In “Don’t be Nice, Be Real” Kelly Bryson explains that blame is actually a painful reaction to an unmet need in the blamer, which is mostly unacknowledged.

Two things we are invited to pay attention to:
1. Notice when you are blaming someone or something and stop for a moment and ask what it is you really need? This is not a natural step for most of us, so give yourself some space to be with the question. Remember your need is about you , not the other person or thing, so I NEED YOU to be different does not help the process. Sometimes naming the need is enough, but if you are feeling really brave, you can express the need. Then if you are really REALLY brave you can allow yourself to receive what it is you are wanting OR you can notice that you can really be okay if the need is not fulfilled. Either way, you have gained enormous ground in becoming conscious and authentic without blaming or holding anyone else hostage to your unmet need.health-wellbeing

2. When we are being blamed by another, remember that what they are expressing, in a not very clear way, is a need. That awareness can prevent us from becoming a number one contestant in the blame game. Although we are clearly playing a part in their projected reality, we may be accountable for something that triggered their feeling. A simple statement of accountability can melt the iceberg before the relationship sinks like the Titanic. No need for us to take responsibility for their feelings, to fix, beg, grovel or defend our innocence or rights. Simply acknowledge. When we enter the blame free zone, the door will open to asking what it is they really need. If we can stay aware, and acknowledge an unmet need, things may really shift in a very fulfilling and satisfying way. This is the stuff of intimate authentic connections!

This takes practice of course, so let yourself get messy and make mistakes. Enjoy your partners quizzical looks as you throw a very excellent monkey wrench into the hamster wheel of the blame cycle.

Good luck with your practice and if you want support, I am happy to help. PM me or give me a call!